I've come to a conclusion. After spending a lot of years studying, teaching, making mistakes, having some wins, some losses, I think there are just three major steps to getting better at, well, anything.
- Introduce your self.
- State your intention.
- Commit.
By introducing your self, it means you're not alone. It means you know who you are. To get better at something, you have to know and be aware of your self. Getting better at anything all by your self is extremely difficult to do. You need support, feedback, laughter. You need people to push you and to slow you down and hold you accountable. You need people.
Your intention is to get better - at something. So, say it. Out loud. To the people you're working with. To acknowledge you want to get better, you're declaring the truth out loud. You're giving it a voice. By declaring your intention, you open your self up to admitting you don't know everything; you don't have all the answers. Maybe you're skill is not what you want it to be, or you don't know certain things like you thought you did, or you don't have what you really want. State your intention clearly and simply. I want to get better at ______________________.
Commit means you give your self entirely to the task. You're taking ownership of your results. You stick. No one else owns the responsibility. Others may support you, help you, but you do the work. When you commit, you take action. You give attention to your intention and create action. You're willing to do what it takes to get better and because of those actions and behaviors, you get better.
Introduce your self.
State your intention.
Commit.
Get better.
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